A lot of guys laugh at the whole concept of online adult dating while sites like AdultDate keep flourishing. They think that they don’t really need it. They meet a lot of women at work, at school, or even at church. Why would they have to go online and look for women who are specifically looking for anonymous sex? Well, thankfully, these guys are few and far between because, let’s face it, when it comes to meeting members of the opposite sex, the Pareto Principle still applies.
You probably have heard of the Pareto Principle’s nickname, the 80-20 rule. According to this rule, 20% of participants get 80% of results. Believe it or not, this rule applies to everything in life. If you don’t believe me, look at income disparity. Look at wealth disparity.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re looking at the United Kingdom, United States, the Philippines, India, Russia, and any other country in between. A tiny portion of the population owns the vast majority of the wealth. This is not an accident. This actually reflects a key part of the human condition. Inequality is built-in to the human mindset.
Accordingly, 20% of athletes generate 80% of product endorsement money and they also generate 80% of the points in a typical NBA game. Similarly, 20% of the students in a typical college produce 80% of the academic work or achievement of that particular institution. I can go on and on and on. This disparity plays out in all areas of your life and it also is a very big factor in the world of online adult dating.
You need to keep this in mind because if you are going to try this method of dating, you have to understand that you need to be in the 20%. Otherwise, you are going to be struggling for crumbs and, eventually, you probably would want to give up. I know it sounds depressing, but it’s the truth. So do yourself a big favor and focus on online adult dating with the right mindset.
The right mindset is that you need spice in your life. You don’t really need online adult dating because you have other options. If that is your attitude, then your chances of succeeding with this particular dating platform will be much higher than otherwise. If not, then you’re probably going to achieve the same type of success as the typical online adult dating site member, that is to say, you’re probably going to get lucky from time to time, but the results you get are otherwise nothing to write home about.
So with this mindset, how can this type of dating add much needed spice to your life?
Regular Dating Can Get Boring
Well, first of all, you get a break from boredom. The typical mainstream or regular date is all too predictable. You pick somebody’s profile or your friend sets you up. You show up, maybe you bring roses, maybe you meet at a restaurant, you try to crack a few jokes, she blushes, you blush, you have a good time, and maybe you get a peck on the cheek. And then later on, you call and then you set up the second date.
Some guys get off on that. Some guys are happy with that. Well, other guys think that’s boring. Even if they’re having sex with a female, it’s still boring. It would be nice to meet somebody that’s just full of raw energy and there’s just a lot of emotional intensity in there.
Now I’m not talking about romantic, emotional intensity. I’m talking about just physical attraction. Just like raw sexual electricity. That’s going to spice things up. And that’s the kind of thing online adult dating brings to the table.
Assume a Different Persona
Another great thing about online adult dating is that you don’t have to be the guy that you hope she’s going to marry. In fact, marriage or even any type of relationship is completely off limits. It’s like the script has been reversed or flipped. Instead of hoping to see that chick again, the hope is that you have a good time together and never see each other again.
This has a very liberating effect on most people because they’re no longer playing a role. They are no longer having to worry about people talking behind their backs or protecting their reputations. They no longer have to give a fuck about all that shit.
When you feel like you don’t give a fuck, this triggers all sorts of exciting, creative personae that you have that can be quite liberating indeed. You’re no longer daddy’s little girl. You’re no long mommy’s little boy. You are your own person and you’re just exploring all these different aspects, some of them dark, of your personality.
Try New Strategies
The great thing about online adult dating is that, ultimately, people don’t really care who you are in your “normal” life. All they care about is who you are at a particular point in time. Accordingly, you can explore different personas that you have and try new strategies. This can be very liberating. At the very least, it provides a nice break from your typical life.